Happy New Year one and all. It’s been that weird time where you forget what day it is, where you are or what you’re actually supposed to be doing with yourself. I for one, am in a totally bizare headspace at the moment. The festive period is always an odd one for me, it’s not my favourite time of the year and it always leaves me with mixed emotions. I find the whole thing mentally exhausting. Dont even get me started on New Years, that’s just another head fuck waiting to happen. As soon as Christmas is over you’ve got the next year just waiting around the corner, it’s there ready to pounce and remind you that you haven’t quite become a better person or acheived your dreams. But hey, maybe next year? Nope not for me, it’s all a huge load of rubbish and I have never and will never be one of those people who set goals because (I’m a huge pesimist) it makes the idea of failure more real and in close reach. I will go at my own pace and not force myself to change for the sake of it turning into a new year. You are not a failure and you yourself know you have done some great stuff these past 365 days! You have smashed last year and you will certainly smash this one too.
It is important to appreciate the things you’ve done, give yourself a little pat on the back and say well done for anything you’ve done in life. But you should be proud of yourself all year, not just when it comes to an end. I think we focus on it being a new time and using it as an excuse to better ourselves, when we can easily do that on whatever date you choose. It’s important to always be positive and not think that we’ve done nothing worth mentioning, I’m sure you’ve done plenty to be proud of.
There are a couple of mini self acomplishments I have achevied this year, and I am really happy about. I for one, have given up smoking and drinking. Given, I was never a drinker anyway really, but I’ve totally ditched it. Smoking, that was my big one, my one really bad habit. I woke up one day and just decided, today is the day I give this up. Three months later and I’ve not looked back since. Another one is the fact I’ve moved cities again, made myself a new home and become an even more of a stronger person for it. I’ve always been fond of the way I like to up and go whenever I feel I need a change, and this was one of the best decisions I’ve made in a very long time. Life is good, really good. I’m happy and healthier than even thanks to my mind telling me to give up unnessisary habits. These are the things I have congratulated myself on this past year, and they weren’t resolutions, they were just little things I wanted to change in my life.
This year, I’m hoping to do the same. I want to get out of more habits like my constant need to chill out, I want to gain more focus and push myself more. I won’t be forcing myself though, I’ll be going with the flow and pursuing it when the time is right. I do want to have the best year ever, but I know I will without setting it as some stupid resolution and you will to. Take life as it comes, grow and change when you feel ready, life is far better that way. We put so much pressure on ourselves and sometimes it’s worth taking a step back, think about the positives and how you will acheive your goals in time without the pressure of a bullet point list of to-dos. Know your worth, strengths and ambitions, it will all work out and you will be ready to ace the year!
Don’t get me wrong, some of us need to make lists and give ourselves rules, and that’s totally OK too. I’m just not one of those people and it’s perfectly fine to be that way. Don’t feel like you have to plan your year out to a T because other people have, or you had to have already done that resolution on the top of your list to be ahead of the game and already on a path to success. Know you will have the best year ever, and that’s when you start to see change happen.